Being Lonely

This blog post by Lysa T. has rumbled through my feeds and emails these past weeks.  At first, it was just the headline – “If you ever feel lonely, read this.”  That initiated a skim, but not a reading.  Then, it appeared in my Facebook posts…I read a little more and thought – wow, this is more than just your normal “you are lonely, trust in God” post.   Still, though, it took one more pop up in my email for me to sit and read.  And absorb.  The line that began the deep dive:

And the great thing about gathering with people you just know you’re going to bond with is that they will get you. Really get you … like on the level of having inside jokes that makes every conversation comfortable and delightful.  I couldn’t wait to be with these people…

I have been there – exactly at that point – and had the same type of thing happen – being so alone amidst the many who were supposed to KNOW you were feeling lonely and be your BFF, right?  And then later on in the story, she says:

I wasn’t just in this place (feeling rejected) at the dinner that night. I’ve been in whole seasons of my life where, though I had people around, I felt quite alone in my calling.

20141216_LysaBut then there is hope, and as usual it is all about perspective.  What if I view this time differently, as Lysa says?

There is something wonderfully sacred that happens when a girl chooses to look past being set aside to see God’s call for her to be set apart.
Oh Lord – is that how you’d have me view those seasons?  I have been through those, been on the other side of those seasons, and I know there will be more ahead.  They are hard.  Lonely.  Full of doubt and questions of your calling and gifting – especially when it seems my unique gifts don’t fit in the normal box what those around me have (or so it seems).  But, Who created me?  Who made me with these giftings and gave me my calling?  Who made me unique and designed me from my mother’s womb?  And if it is the same Who who walks alongside me now, it makes little sense to doubt Him now.  Rather, wouldn’t it make more sense to lean into Him, trusting Him, asking for His comfort, as He is the great Comforter.
I’ll end with the wisdom that Lysa T shared in her blog on next steps when you are feeling this way.   Take the time to read her whole post – it is well worth it.  Thank you, Lysa, for sharing.

1. Look for the gift of being humbled.

Proverbs 11:2b reminds us that “with humility comes wisdom” (NIV). In this set apart place, God will give you special wisdom you’ll need for the assignment ahead.

2. Look for the gift of being lonely.

This will develop in you a deeper sense of compassion for your fellow travelers. You better believe when I walk into a conference now I look for someone sitting alone and make sure they know someone noticed them.

3. Look for the gift of silence.

Had I been surrounded by the voices of those people I was so eager to meet that night, I would have surely missed the voice of God. I’m trying to weave more silence into the rhythm of my life now so I can whisper, “God what might You want to say to me right now? I’m listening.”

I know it can be painful to be alone. And I know the thoughts of being set aside are loud and overwhelmingly tempting to believe in the hollows of feeling unnoticed and uninvited.

But as you pray through your feelings, see if maybe your situation has more to do with you being prepared than you being overlooked.

There is something wonderfully sacred that happens when a girl chooses to look past being set aside to see God’s call for her to be set apart.

Dear Lord, help me see the gifts hidden in this season of loneliness. I’m believing today that I’m set apart, not set aside. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

John 15:16a, “You didn’t choose me. I chose you.” (NLT)

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This blog is about the quiet.  It is about the quirky.  And, it is written by me – a quiet and quirky woman.

Today has been a Monday.  Not really just one thing…but a culmination of today, the days passed and the days ahead.  They all seem to be colliding/ramming into each other/conflicting today.

Lysa TerKeurst reminded me today of the Truth.  I’ve read it before…skimmed it again….and now letting it dwell this time.  She writes the following:

“Jesus gave all so that we wouldn’t have to live our lives based on how we feel in the moment.  We can live our lives based on truth.  Often those two things are different.”

Some Truth:

“I know that my Redeemer lives, and that in the end He will stand upon the earth.”  Job 19:25

“The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe.”  Proverbs 18:10

“I am with you and will watch over you wherever you go…”  Genesis 28:15

“The one who calls you is faithful and he will do it.”  1 Thess. 5:24

Are there any verses you cling to?

New leaves…

Turning over a few new leaves here at the homefront.  Putting some of Dave Ramsey’s stuff in motion and I am excited to see where it is headed.  I have moments of ‘are you kidding me???’ but the satisfaction of cash purchases and not having to pay for things a month later….kinda sweet!

And, the funniest part is that there is a guy names Steve who is our FPU representative for our church (we did the FPU class twice and need a rep from the official Dave Ramsey office).  Anyway, Steve calls me about once a quarter and I laugh and laugh and laugh and laugh.  He is one of the funnest guys I know to talk with and it is a good thing he is selling the Golden Gate bridge, because I’d probably buy one from him!!

Why do I go missing in action?

I often confuse myself. And, I often think too much. And, I am often too sensitive. You know, just those quirky things about me….

One thing I have learned, though, is that when I go MIA it is usually because i just don’t ‘feel’ like writing. So, I am thinking I need to get over this.

I enjoy writing. I enjoy sharing with others. I enjoy writing about the quirky and the quiet. So, consider this my public challenge to myself to just get over it….and write!

(Aren’t those ‘puppies’ cute….)

Missing in Action

So, I’ve been silent for a bit.  Lots of thinking going on over here in NC.  Some days I feel lucky to make it to bed without a major meltdown of my own (meltdown of the children is expected….).  I am excited, though, about what the future holds.  I am at peace with what the present holds.  And, the past is the past, as Paul says –

Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.“—Philippians 3:13–14 NLT

So, how are you?  Do you look forward to what lies ahead?  What lies ahead for you?